tbh, remaining best friends with someone who is a rapist is really shitty to the friend who you saved from being raped. like I lived in an apartment with my two best friends at the time and one of them raped me and the other one just stayed friends with him and it tore me apart so fucking much to have to go thru something like that and then my friend just… fucking let it go. like they had “talks” and all but to me all that said was, “yeah raping you isn’t bad enough to end a friendship over and I support him even after he did this to you”.
so that’s from my personal experience. it’s not your job to teach your friend not to rape people. like if he literally attempted to date rape someone, that was thought out ahead of time and if you continue to be best friends with him, not only is he going to see that he can get away with something like that with nothing more than some lectures and discussions, but the friend that you saved from being raped is going to see that you don’t consider an attempted rape important enough to end a friendship over and that you don’t support the person who nearly was raped. your best friend is a rapist. you don’t need to retain that friendship and you shouldn’t have good feelings for that person anymore.
Can’t even a fucking book